Your Future Life Coach Might Not Be Human
Chris Do and founder Jody Cook reveal how making audacious requests, building genuine relationships, and leveraging AI can propel your career.
Chris Do
Founder, The Futur™ · September 14, 2023
Get Clients
How does a 23-year-old find herself speaking at a major event alongside industry veterans? For Jody Cook, founder of Coachvox AI, it started with a two-word business plan: get clients.
In a conversation with Chris Do, Cook peels back the layers of a career defined by audacious action and a disarmingly simple mindset. When she launched her first business, a social media agency, at 22, she had no grand strategy. She didn't have a 50-page deck or a complex financial model.
“I didn't have a business plan really,” Cook admits. “I just had two words which was get clients.”
This philosophy wasn't born from an MBA classroom. It was absorbed at home. Cook's mother started her own business when Jody was 15, normalizing the lexicon of entrepreneurship. Words like clients, invoices, and networking became part of the family's vernacular. She saw firsthand that business was not a mystical pursuit but a practical one. Go to events. Meet people. Offer to help.
So that’s what she did. At 22, she began attending networking events in 2011, a time when social media was still a novel concept for many businesses. She stood up and introduced herself as a social media manager, convincing people they needed to be on this new platform called Twitter. Her approach was naive but relentless. If someone gave her a business card and expressed interest, she took it as a firm commitment. “I would just keep calling them until they picked up,” she says. “I never thought for a second that they might have just been polite.”
That tenacity landed her the first client. Then the second. Each success became a case study, a proof point that fueled the next pitch. Soon, the freelance gig became a real business, and the business needed a voice. Because social media was the hot topic of the year, event organizers needed speakers. That’s how, just one year into her venture, she found herself on a stage, an experience that would set the tone for her entire career.
The Myth of the Big Break
Many creatives wait for a “big break,” a magical moment when a gatekeeper anoints them. Jody Cook’s experience tells a different story. Her role as a contributor for Forbes, a position that drove 25% of her former agency’s sign-ups, wasn't a lucky accident. It was the result of a deliberate, sustained campaign.
“It was all down to finding one of the editors, meeting her at an event, and then prolifically following her up until she agreed to let me sign up,” Cook explains. The key word is “prolifically.” She wasn’t shy about it. “I was like, ‘Hey, me again, come on.’”
While she jokingly calls her formula to “stalk and harass a little bit,” the underlying strategy is about building a genuine, long-term relationship. It stands in stark contrast to the transactional pitches that flood the inboxes of editors and creators. As Chris Do notes, these cold asks are exhausting. “Your first point of contact with me is to ask me for something,” Do says. “It doesn't make me feel great.”
The antidote is to give before you ask. To offer value without the immediate expectation of a return. This requires playing the long game, a concept famously illustrated by the Stanford marshmallow experiment. Are you willing to delay the gratification of the ask for a bigger payoff later?
Cook points to her friendship with PR expert Lucy Werner, the person who connected her with Do. “We've probably been friends for a couple of years now… and she hasn't once pitched me. Not once,” Cook says. “She's just playing the long game.” By building a real friendship, a foundation of mutual interest and respect, any future collaboration becomes a natural extension of the relationship, not a cold transaction.
If you want to get featured, the work starts with deep research, not a generic email blast. Cook advises creators to geek out on the publication’s website and understand the specific swim lanes of each contributor.
- Understand their beat. Pitching an interview to a writer who only does data-driven analysis is a waste of everyone's time.
- Think like the writer. Imagine the exact article they would write and come to them with a fully-formed, relevant idea.
- Make it personal. Find common ground. Reference their work. Show you’ve done your homework beyond a ChatGPT-formulated pitch.
- Build familiarity. Follow them on social media. Engage with their content. Become a known entity, not a random name in their inbox.
The goal is to move from being a stranger asking for a favor to a familiar peer proposing a mutually beneficial collaboration. You do that by shifting your focus from getting to giving. “You bring more to the table,” Cook advises. “And you offer that first.”
Build Your Own House First
But what if you're not a gregarious extrovert? What if the idea of constant outreach feels draining and inauthentic? For many creatives and introverts, like Do himself, the outbound strategy of networking and persistent follow-ups is not a natural fit.
“I don't find joy in social interaction and keeping in touch with folks,” Do confesses. “So it's not my natural tendency.”
The solution is not to force a personality you don’t have. It’s to choose a different strategy. Instead of knocking on doors, you build a house so magnificent that people seek you out to knock on yours. “I think the answer is to rather than knocking on doors… it's focusing on building your own house first and making it so good that people seek you out,” Cook says. “And I think Chris, that's totally what you've done.”
This is the power of inbound marketing. You create content, you build a body of work, and that work becomes your ambassador, traveling to places and connecting with people you never could on your own. This approach isn't passive; it's a different kind of active work focused on creation instead of outreach. To learn how to create work that resonates, it helps to understand how to build content that people actually react to.
Cook experienced this firsthand. Early in her agency days, she wrote a series of small books, what she calls “glorified leaflets,” including one titled 50 Great Ideas for Instagram for Business. She put it on Amazon and gave it to clients. It wasn't a masterpiece. But it was out there. It was a house, even if it was a small one.
Then, something happened. A traditional publisher, notoriously difficult to access, got in touch. “A publisher pitched me,” she recalls, still with a hint of surprise. “They are notoriously hard to get in front of. But because I'd kind of built my own house already, even if it wasn't even that good a house, it was out there and someone had the opportunity to then come and approach me.”
Creating your own content puts you on a level playing field. It transforms you from a supplicant asking for a favor into a peer with demonstrated value. It makes the “what’s in it for them” obvious. As marketers like Seth Godin have long taught, people don’t want to read email; they want to read “me-mail.” They are driven by self-interest. Having your own platform, your own book, or your own body of work is the ultimate demonstration of value. It proves your expertise and makes collaboration an easy decision.
How to Punch Above Your Weight
Building your own house creates a foundation. The next step is to make an audacious request. Cook calls this punching above your weight: getting into a room or a project with someone you perceive to be ahead of you in the game.
“Hardly anyone does make that request because they're so scared of rejection that they don't do it,” she says. But when you combine an audacious ask with an irresistible offer, the dynamic changes completely.
The perfect example is how Cook came to co-author the book How to Raise Entrepreneurial Kids with renowned entrepreneur and author Daniel Priestley. Cook had met Priestley years earlier at an event, but he was operating on a much larger scale. His personal brand and business were far bigger than hers. A simple request to “collab” would have likely gone nowhere.
So she didn’t make a simple request. The project started with a blog post idea. Cook used the service Help a Reporter Out (HARO) to solicit stories on raising entrepreneurial kids. She expected a handful of replies. She got 400.
“This was responses from people absolutely pouring their heart out, telling me about their childhoods,” Cook remembers. “I thought, well, this is not a blog post. This is a book.”
She knew she wanted a co-author who was also a parent. Priestley came to mind. But how do you pitch a massive collaboration to someone so far out of your league? You don't ask for a favor. You present a done deal. You make the yes easy.
Cook reached out to Priestley with a two-minute voice note that laid out the irresistible offer:
- The work was already done. She had over 40,000 words of compelling, heartfelt source material from 400 contributors.
- The structure was clear. She explained she would do all the heavy lifting of organizing, editing, and writing the core of the book.
- His role was minimal and high-value. She simply needed him to write the introductions for each chapter, lending his expertise and perspective.
“I said, I'm going to turn these into a structure, and because I said all I need from you is just the introductions… he was like, sure,” Cook says. Not only did Priestley agree, but he immediately brought more to the table. “Oh, and by the way, we can use my publisher. I'll speak to them about this idea.”
This is the blueprint for punching above your weight. It’s not about luck or connections. It’s about audacity backed by an overwhelming amount of upfront value. It flips the script from asking for help to offering an unmissable opportunity. This kind of entrepreneurial drive is not always innate; it's often cultivated, as explored in discussions with other successful founders like those in Your Dream Doesn't Need Money, It Needs This.
The Entrepreneurial Operating System
This ability to execute, to see an opportunity and act decisively, is not a skill learned overnight. For Cook, it was an operating system installed in childhood.
When her mother pivoted from the corporate world to start her own business, it demystified the entire process. Jody saw the hustle, the phone calls, the networking. Work wasn't a mysterious place her mom went; it was an integral part of home life. “When she was on the phone, we had to be quiet,” she recalls. The implicit lesson was clear: “Work is important. Work is something that you do and you're proud of.”
This upbringing fostered a powerful sense of independence. From the time they could talk, Jody and her sister were responsible for booking their own doctor and dentist appointments. They were handed the phone book and the phone and told to figure it out. “Maybe being thrown in at the deep end made the deep end less scary,” she reflects.
That learned fearlessness carried directly into her first networking event. Standing before 60 people, just two weeks into her business, she realized she didn't even have a company name. As others introduced themselves with initial-based names like “JP Entertainment” and “ML Accountancy,” she saw a pattern. In a split second, she named her company JC Social Media and delivered her pitch.
The nervousness was there, but it had been reframed long ago. Her mother had taught her that the jittery feeling before a performance wasn't fear; it was excitement. “She'd be like, no, no, no, you've got butterflies,” Cook says. “And she's like, yeah, that's what you get… and it means you're going to do something really exciting.”
That single reframe is a cornerstone of the entrepreneurial mindset. It transforms a signal to retreat into a signal to advance. It’s a powerful tool for overcoming the anxiety that paralyzes so many, a topic also explored in discussions on managing stress and public speaking.
What Game Are You Playing?
As an entrepreneur’s career evolves, the definition of success changes. The initial game of “get clients” eventually gives way to more complex challenges. A critical mistake many founders make is playing a game without knowing the rules or the objective.
Cook learned this lesson in a mastermind group where the unspoken measure of success was the size of your keynote speaking fee. While she was part of the group, she found herself adopting their goals, even though they didn't align with her true desires. “If you're in a group where their measure of success is something that yours isn't, you're eventually going to come around to that way of thinking,” she warns. “And then you're probably going to start to confuse your real needs and desires and wants with theirs.”
This realization led her to develop a framework for entrepreneurial self-awareness: The four games of business. To succeed, you must first identify which game you are playing.
- The Lifestyle Game: The primary goal is to earn a certain amount to fund a desired quality of life. The business serves the lifestyle, not the other way around.
- The Artist Game: The goal is to spend as much time as possible doing your core craft. You hire people to eliminate friction and administrative tasks that take you away from your art.
- The Performance Game: The goal is to see what you are capable of. It’s about pushing your limits, chasing big impact, and building something impressive. This is the game Cook and Do both identify with now.
- The Build It and Sell It Game: A finite game with a clear objective: build a company with the intention of exiting. The focus is on creating a valuable, sellable asset.
Knowing which game you’re playing is essential. It dictates the kind of advice you should seek and the masterminds you should join. “If you're running a performance business and you're getting advice from someone who's running a lifestyle business, it's probably not going to quite align,” Cook explains. Clarity on this point prevents you from being steered down a path that leads away from your own definition of success.
Your Future Life Coach Might Not Be Human
After exiting her first company, Cook found herself playing the Performance Game with her new venture, Coachvox AI. The company was born from a new tension in the creator economy: large language models were being trained on the vast libraries of content creators had spent years building, often without their consent or benefit.
“You might as well be generating leads from it, you might as well be talking to your audience from it, you might as well be reaping all the benefits without it just being taken away from you,” Cook argues. Her solution is to empower creators to build their own AI coaches, trained exclusively on their intellectual property.
This creates a win-win. Creators regain ownership and create a new, scalable way to serve their audience. And audiences get access to the wisdom of mentors they might never be able to afford or access directly. This is not just a chatbot that recycles blog posts. It’s a tool for personalized guidance.
Do, who has built his own AI version of himself for his community, sees the immense potential. “It knows everything that I've done, it forgets nothing, and it has something that I do not have: infinite patience,” he says. It's the ultimate teaching assistant, available 24/7 to do role-plays, answer questions, and guide users through complex topics.
The technology is still in its infancy, but the future possibilities are staggering. An AI coach can remember every conversation and spot patterns over years of interaction. It could notice a recurring struggle and say, “Hey, that thing that you're struggling with… something that you said this time last year sounds kind of similar to that. I wonder if we could dig into this a little bit more.”
This is a level of long-term insight that a human coach, with dozens of clients, could never achieve. It represents a a future where personalized mentorship is not a luxury for the few, but an accessible tool for the many. The development of a strong personal brand becomes the fuel for these new coaching models.
While the existential threats of superintelligent AI loom, for now, the opportunity is in the hands of creators. The challenge is for good-hearted, mission-driven people to use this powerful technology to make a positive impact before it’s co-opted entirely for corporate greed. As the movie Don't Look Up satirized, human short-sightedness and greed can be our own undoing. The antidote is for entrepreneurs to build things that serve a higher purpose.
In the end, all these threads—getting press, building a brand, making audacious requests, and leveraging AI—are about one thing: impact. It’s about moving beyond simply “getting clients” to changing your corner of the world. For Do, it’s about changing education. For Cook, it’s about empowering creators and fighting bad advice.
The tools and strategies are here. The only question left is the one posed by the “10 years left to live” thought experiment. Knowing what you know now, what audacious request will you make tomorrow?
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“I just had two words which was get clients.”
— Chris Do
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